We live in an instant society: instant messaging, drive – through food, microwaves, text messaging, IPods, IPhones, Blackberrys — just about anything we want NOW we can have. No wonder some people have confused technology speed with relational speed. After all, this is the decade of ’speed dating’, right? Or so some, would think....
The problem is that there is no way to rush intimacy. Speed dating does not equal relationship security and knowledge. There is only one way to know someone and that is through time. There are no short cuts. Many people think that if you substitute the time you would spend with someone over a year of knowing them and squeeze that time into a 24/7 relationship, then you will get the same results...sorry..wrong again. To often there is an inappropriate pacing in relationships in which people early on begin to spend 24/7 with a new person..---this will not work, I REPEAT, this is DANGEROUS!!!!! They give up their outside hobbies, friends, families, and lifestyles. They think that if someone WANTS to spend 24/7 with them, they must be ‘really into them.
Wrong, wrong, wrong!!!!!!
Finding yourself in this type of situation is destined to be a miserable and regretful relationship.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
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Loc'd for life
It's been 5 months since I first twisted my hair to start my locs. I first started with comb coils, but after wearing them for about 3 weeks, I wasn't too impressed. I then had my hair twisted with two-strand twists, which I absolutely LOVE! My babies are growing and each day, I become more and more in love with them.
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